Have you ever thought about how your thoughts can affect how well you do in business? Well, in this episode, we're going to look at how having the right kind of thinking is super important, especially during holidays. We'll talk about how truly believing in what you're doing and having a positive attitude can make people see your products or services in a good way. We'll also share our own stories to show why it's important to deal with any worries you might have and work on having the right mindset for success in the long run. Our converstation is a strong reminder that growing as a person and doing well in business are connected, so it's a good idea to take care of your mental strength.
In this episode, we discuss the following: 1. The significance of mindset in achieving success in business. 2. The importance of the energy you project and the belief you have in the products or services you are selling. 3. How addressing your personal trauma and working on your mindset is beneficial for your business.
Have you ever thought about how your thoughts can affect how well you do in business? Well, in this episode, we're going to look at how having the right kind of thinking is super important, especially during holidays. We'll talk about how truly believing in what you're doing and having a positive attitude can make people see your products or services in a good way. We'll also share our own stories to show why it's important to deal with any worries you might have and work on having the right mindset for success in the long run. Our converstation is a strong reminder that growing as a person and doing well in business are connected, so it's a good idea to take care of your mental strength.
In this episode, we discuss the following: 1. The significance of mindset in achieving success in business. 2. The importance of the energy you project and the belief you have in the products or services you are selling. 3. How addressing your personal trauma and working on your mindset is beneficial for your business.
Welcome to Rock's Talks, the podcast that helps network marketers grow their business on social media. I'm Roxanne Wilson, social media network marketing coach, with nearly a decade of experience in the space, as well as television and radio experience, and a passion to really help you and empower you to be the best network marketer you can be, which means knowing yourself and knowing your brand.
Speaker 2:
And I'm Taryn Soa, your social media sidekick. I run all things behind the scenes at Rock's Talks, While being the right hand woman to Roxanne, I also strategize and manage our full social media plan. So I would love to share with you the tips, the happenings, all the things going on in the social media world.
Speaker 1:
Each week, we're here to give you the latest and greatest direct selling, social selling, network marketing, whatever you like to call it. The end game is for you to really understand your business, understand yourself and your brand and to rock it on social media. It's the most wonderful time of the ding ding, ding dong. You have not had that yet. Yo, I'm surprised you're here. Happy holidays as you're listening to this. You've just finished Giving Tuesday. You've just finished Cyber Monday. You've just finished Small Business Saturday. You've just finished Black Friday. You just finished Stuffin' and Huffin' with Thanksgiving. How ya feeling.
Speaker 2:
Who did the turkey trot? That's what I want to know, right, who did the turkey?
Speaker 1:
trot. We used to have a jazzer size class the day of Thanksgiving and we call it Huff and Puff before you stuff. Oh gosh, I could use that. Oh yeah, those were popular times. My dad, because he was a soccer coach for tons and tons of years and they used to have every Thanksgiving they'd have a before they did the Thanksgiving tournament. On Thanksgiving morning they would have a parents versus the kids game. Of course they'd always have to let the parents win, but it was always cute to see it.
Speaker 2:
What you had to let the kids win.
Speaker 1:
No, no, they were highly competitive. They were no. These were like state and regional champs and all the things. Oh okay, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:
Let them have some breaking rights at the table. Exactly.
Speaker 1:
Exactly so. Something I've been noticing tearing up my heart tear bear, is that there are some of you who are putting a lot of effort into this holiday season, which is good, because this is the time of like just go balls to the walls, get your product into as many people's hands as possible, all the things and yet you're not seeing the results. Oh, or you were given, given on a platy, a perfect plan for how to execute the holiday season and you're just not doing it. The reason is the same for both of you. So you're do, do, doing and not seeing the results, or you're not doing and also not seeing the results. The reason you're not seeing the results is the same.
Speaker 2:
So are you going to tell us what it is? Tell us, that's the reason.
Speaker 1:
Yes, I'll tell you, it is y'all. I'm trying to find a like, a non-cliché way to say it. Yes, it is something new. You're going to be told, after喔, what's going on in between your two ears. It's your head, it's your mind, it's your mindset. Yes, I'm gonna say mindset, so I'm gonna turn it off, like, oh, she's gonna get a little mindset-y, but it's so true, it's what's going on between your head. And if your head isn't right, you know what the rest of this is not right.
Speaker 1:
There is a show, and I can't it's. The show got canceled Canceled because I'm a very controversial lead of the show and the name of the show is named after a very controversial person. But growing up I'll give you a hint as a black woman and a black family, we used to watch a show all the time, and I'll remember, I always remember, this episode where one of the children in the family brings home her new husband, and her new husband is this marim, and she's like this is my husband and he has a child, and she can't understand why her parents are so bothered by the whole thing. And so the parents describe the situation as like why don't you imagine something? Imagine you go to your favorite restaurant. I want you right now to think about your, and if it's Chipotle, I don't mean Chipotle. Like your favorite, like five-star restaurant Restaurants.
Speaker 2:
sit down with a server, not KFC.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I've been watching too much Love Is Blind. Where you're like is this favorite restaurant is Chipotle, yeah, no, Okay. So this is like nice, nice restaurant, right? And you're so excited and you're dressed up and you've got your best person with you and you're like ordering this six-course meal and you're so excited and the filet mignon is about to come and you've got the waiter or the server, I should say and they've got the Even have the napkin. This is all the. I remember this part. He's describing this way the napkin on the shoulder, and he has your plate and there's a silver cap over it and he lifts it up and you see that your filet mignon is on a garbage can lid. Ew, Like exactly. Would you want that filet mignon?
Speaker 2:
No, probably not. No, consider it for a second and then I'm like oh shit I can't eat it. It gets ruined.
Speaker 1:
Right, the filet mignon is ruined because of what it was presented on, as opposed to you presenting it on a plate or a platter, y'all it's the same. You're like where is she going with this? It's the same thing. When you're sitting there and you're doing all the do but you're not believing it's going to work, you're thinking, oh my gosh, this business has been crappy this year. A note my team has quit on me. I can't get people to buy from me. I can't convince people to buy from me. I don't believe this works. If you present whatever you're selling and I don't care if you're presenting it via social media or talking to someone or doing a presentation to a group, if that is what's in the back of your head then you basically serve them filet mignon on a garbage can lid and then you're trying to understand and you can't understand. Why don't they want to have to offer? Because the energy you put out there was garbage.
Speaker 2:
Was garbage. I was literally actually last night listening to this awesome master class and it was like before you can even do sales or strategy. You have to work on your energy and not in a way I mean, if this works for you, whatever where you get out all your stones and you're dancing naked in the moon, like we were talking about earlier offline but people can feel your energy. They are attracted to you because of you. So if the energy you're putting out is negative, guess what?
Speaker 1:
They are going to turn their little booty around and run the other direction 100% like a magnet, repelling, not attracting, and you can try and sideswipe it all you want. But I think about when I coach. Like most of the coaching that I do is mindset coaching. Now, you don't hire me for mindset coaching because you don't want to do mindset coaching. You want to know how to get what you need to get done right now and I'll show you and I'll help you. But the moment you feel like you're stumbling, it's because we're discovering that your mindset is not right and that's what we then have to go and work on.
Speaker 1:
There's so many of my clients who are like oh, this was therapy, and I'm not a therapist, I'm not saying they are, but because the mindset matters. It truly, truly, truly matters. And you think people don't know, but you got to think about it. There are times where you are totally detracted or repelled from something and you're like, eh, that is a stick. Two people selling the same thing, which is what most of you are doing. Why do you grab towards one person and not the other when they are literally selling the same thing? And you could say, oh well, her social media is better. She did that, but at the end of the day, it's the energy she's putting out there, it's the mindset. It's that she believes or she does not believe.
Speaker 2:
And you can tell, you can see when someone's kind of questioning it and I feel like it's kind of what we've talked about in the past, where it's like and you feel like it's not spammy. What word am I looking for? Use car summon yeah, you can see right through it where you're like yeah, is she going to be selling something different next week? Does she really?
Speaker 1:
believe it or is she just trying to get me to do it? It's also why I don't believe that you should lead with the business, because if you don't believe and you've got nothing going on and you're like, join me, join me, join me you're wondering why people aren't joining you. It's because you don't believe in your business. Why should someone join you in a business you don't believe in? And that's why I applaud people and they're like you know what? I don't believe right now in bringing someone on and telling them hey, you're going to make X amount of dollars, because I just don't see that happening for them. So I'm not going to say it. I'm like bravo to you.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, gone are the days. I think and that's what we're really trying to make a change is leading with the business. I still see it, I still see it and you're like oh well, what are you actually selling?
Speaker 1:
But yeah, yeah. So I am a firm believer and you've heard me probably say this over and over again. But if you came to starting your business thinking I'm going to learn about business, yes, you are. But remember that thing that you locked in the deep dark corners of your mind, whatever type of trauma, insecurities it might be, and you locked it and you threw away the key and you're like OK, I never have to think about you again being a business person, whether you're a direct seller, network marker, social seller, or you're a coach, or you've got a drop ship, no matter what kind of business you have, if you're an entrepreneur, those things will creep up. That door you thought was locked will suddenly unlock and that thing you thought you put away like the Vespers, like I used to watch Charmed, they're coming for you, coming for you yes, and that's not always advertised when someone wants to start a business.
Speaker 2:
Like oh, by the way, while you're doing this business, every trauma you've ever had is going to lay itself back out for you. And to be successful in business, you have to work on it. You've got to work on it. You can't just leave it laying there. You've got to pick it up, you know.
Speaker 1:
I think that would be the best commercial for a company wanting people to do 9 to 5. Do 9 to 5 so all of your deep, dark trauma won't come out.
Speaker 2:
Yes, you don't really have to use your brain as much. Well, ok, what do we? Really feel about 9 to 5?
Speaker 1:
I know, right, you've got to turn it on and turn it back off, just. But if you are going to be a business person, the squishy stuff is going to come up. And it's going to come up sometimes when you usually when you really didn't want it to, because you didn't want it to anyway, yeah, so embrace that and and understand that that's going to be part of it.
Speaker 2:
When did that come up for you in your business Like? Because I have a vivid memory of when it was like oh my God, I need to work on this. And it clicked.
Speaker 1:
When did that come up for me? It came up for me when I was doing network marketing not coaching, actually, yeah. And it came up for me because I was like, okay, I'm doing all the things and and people started hating me. People just like I was helping everyone, I was doing things for the team at large, I was doing things that were successful in my business, and then I was hearing all this shit that people were saying about me and I was like what, I'm here on Island, what the heck? And I had a choice.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I had a choice in that moment to like what I used to do, which was like dive into the mess and try and like defend myself, or and or just not Say I don't accept this cause. I know this isn't true and I'm not. I'm not, I am misunderstood, Hello manifestor. And I'm going to walk, just like walk away from it. And so I did. I walked away. I'm like you know what? I don't need this. I know I didn't do anything wrong. I don't know why you guys think these things about me. I don't even know you. You're like so removed from me and you hate me and you're telling me, like what's happening here? Yeah, but it was hurtful, because you see people you think know you, who were like, oh well, this person might be anyway, but that's when I had to deal with him. Okay, what am I going to do this time? I'm going to try and defend myself or I'm just going to be me and just walk away. And I walked away, yeah.
Speaker 2:
I think there's. There's a moment that I like realized it. But there's also the moment before I realized it, when I was trying to sell it works, yeah, the wraps and I could not. I couldn't do it. I like could not get out of myself to do it and so I quit it and I was like this isn't just not going to work for me, so I didn't do anything with it. Fast forward, a year later, I started doing more virtual assisting and I was ready to kind of like expand my business outside of one client and the people pleasing in me was taking over.
Speaker 2:
I was unhappy, I'm like I was so depressed and I had finally reached out to like a life coach. And she's like Taryn, you need to feel your feelings. And I was like what are you talking about? I feel my feelings and she's like no, you don't. And so that was like the oh. Once I started like monitoring, I like I had stuffed every single feeling and the only ones that would bubble out would be anger. If I was really angry. Or like you know where you ever have that like really good cry, where it's like you just take the lid off and then you can't stop crying and you're crying and crying, and those are the two emotions I felt Wow, not happiness, not, you know and so I had to really really work on that. I still do. It's hard to feel feelings.
Speaker 1:
I think it's. Yeah, I think it's. A lot of times it comes up again and you just like did I figure this out? Or maybe I didn't figure it out? Maybe there's another piece, another feeling. I need to learn how to feel.
Speaker 2:
Yep, there's another layer, especially to like for me personally. I was that way for a reason right, because of the family that I was around. So it's like you do kind of have to keep you change, but like the people around you aren't changing. So there's that piece too.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, and how are you going to react to that? Yeah, exactly, that's so true. So I guess the takeaway for you right now, because I think, hey, that's great, Roxanne, I still have sales, I still have places I need to go right now, yeah, it is. I guess. If you're not, if you know your energy is off, which it is, yeah, the long term, there's some work. That I'm not saying is going to be fixed just because you listened to this podcast. I wish it was, but that's not going to happen.
Speaker 1:
What do you believe in? What do you have to offer that you do believe in? And take your energy with something you know that you believe in and perhaps try and promote that. It may not be the thing that's on sale or is like the big, oh my gosh, thing we're doing right now, but if there's something you believe in, if everyone's saying like sell, like recruit, recruit, recruit and you're like, but I just believe in the body wash, then talk about the body wash, Talk about the thing you believe in. And for those of you who are not doing anything because you don't believe, between your head you believe in something or you wouldn't be in the business, so just talk about that thing that you believe in. Start there.
Speaker 1:
But my other suggestion would be to decide and maybe it's for 2024, maybe you don't want to do it right now.
Speaker 1:
That's totally fine that you are going to work on your mindset that you are going to, whether that be going to therapy, whether that be coaching, whatever. And if you're someone who you're like you know what, Roxanne, I cannot stomach investing in something that seems kind of woo-wee or soft, qualitative and not quantitative then find a coach like what I do, where it's like yes, you're coming for this and I'll help you move the needle here, but I am going to work on the squishy stuff at the same time. Like, if you, if that you just like I need to know that we're working towards a goal that is quantitative than awesome. If you're like I don't need that, I know I need, I'm okay with just qualitative, then go get a therapist, Go to therapy. Either way, do something. Decide that you are going to do something now to really help you, and it's not I'm just going to help you with your business. It's literally going to help you with life. I promise it will.
Speaker 2:
I promise too. I promise you know, every time I work on myself, my business grows and continues to grow and I'm learning. It's not just a one and done thing, like I work on my mindset all the time, all the time, all the time, and makes you feel better makes you feel good Absolutely, and that's why it's the most wonderful time of the year. Speaking of that, my behind the scenes we're going to decorate for Christmas. I think tonight or tomorrow I have been the Grinch when it has come to Christmas, because I usually decorate.
Speaker 2:
You're a mean one, I know. I usually decorate November 1st and it is as we're recording. I don't know what the day is, november 21st.
Speaker 1:
It's the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, yeah.
Speaker 2:
So we're going to do it.
Speaker 1:
Yay, holiday spirit, that'll be good. And they'll be the first time decorating your new place, that's even more exciting.
Speaker 2:
Mm-hmm, yep, so I'm going to take all this stuff out and see where we're going to put it.
Speaker 1:
I don't think we're decorating this year. I just don't know. No, probably not. No, and I knew that a month ago. I'm like I don't think we're decorating this year. Yeah, with the move and we're not home now, we're still in the Boston area and then we're moving I just don't think it's gonna happen. So I like to look at other people's decorations. So show them a post, share them with me. I wanna see them for sure. My behind the scenes is I'm just like moving along. That's what I got.
Speaker 2:
Moving along. Nothing wrong with that, nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 1:
All right, y'all, you're amazing. We'll see you next week. Be kind to yourself and please don't sit there and go. I should be further along with this mental stuff. No, you shouldn't. No one said that. That's not a thing, not a head not behind. You're exactly where you're supposed to be, but do work on it now.
Speaker 2:
Awesome, we love you guys. See you next week, bye, bye. Thanks for listening to another episode of Rock Talks. We would love for you to help us get this message out to other network marketers. If you could follow rate review wherever you are listening to this episode, we would greatly appreciate it. And hey, if this episode speaks to you directly, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it on Instagram stories. Be sure to tag us over at Rocks Talks.
Speaker 1:
Always remember you're not ahead, you're not behind, you're exactly where you're supposed to be and we'll see you next week for another episode of Rocks Talks. Thank you.