In this episode, we explore the importance of betting on oneself, inspired from the recent University of Michigan win. The message is clear: embrace the journey, learn from failures, and trust your instincts. Success lies in perseverance and bravery, not the pursuit of perfection.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Bet on Yourself: We emphasize the importance of betting on oneself, even in the face of challenges or when others suggest alternative paths. Personal confidence and self-trust are crucial in overcoming obstacles.
Resilience and Persistence: We highlight how the willingness to face challenges, learn from failures, and persevere is a key aspect of achieving success.
Avoiding External Influences: We stress how crucial it is to stay true to yourself and not be swayed by societal expectations or conventional wisdom.
Learning from Failure: We emphasize the idea that failure is not a setback but an opportunity to learn and grow.
Trusting Your Intuition: The importance of trusting one's intuition and feelings, rather than relying solely on logical decision-making processes, is highlighted.
Embracing the Journey: We suggest that true fulfillment and growth come from experiencing the challenges, setbacks, and successes along the way, rather than just focusing on the end result.
In this episode, we explore the importance of betting on oneself, inspired from the recent University of Michigan win. The message is clear: embrace the journey, learn from failures, and trust your instincts. Success lies in perseverance and bravery, not the pursuit of perfection.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Bet on Yourself: We emphasize the importance of betting on oneself, even in the face of challenges or when others suggest alternative paths. Personal confidence and self-trust are crucial in overcoming obstacles.
Resilience and Persistence: We highlight how the willingness to face challenges, learn from failures, and persevere is a key aspect of achieving success.
Avoiding External Influences: We stress how crucial it is to stay true to yourself and not be swayed by societal expectations or conventional wisdom.
Learning from Failure: We emphasize the idea that failure is not a setback but an opportunity to learn and grow.
Trusting Your Intuition: The importance of trusting one's intuition and feelings, rather than relying solely on logical decision-making processes, is highlighted.
Embracing the Journey: We suggest that true fulfillment and growth come from experiencing the challenges, setbacks, and successes along the way, rather than just focusing on the end result.
Welcome to Rock's Talks, the podcast that helps network marketers grow their business on social media. I'm Roxanne Wilson, social media network marketing coach, with nearly a decade of experience in the space, as well as television and radio experience, and a passion to really help you and empower you to be the best network marketer you can be, which means knowing yourself and knowing your brand.
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And I'm Taryn Soa, your social media sidekick. I run all things behind the scenes at Rock's Talks, While being the right hand woman to Roxanne, I also strategize and manage our full social media plan. So I would love to share with you the tips, the happenings, all the things going on in the social media world.
Speaker 1:
Each week, we're here to give you the latest and greatest direct selling, social selling, network marketing, whatever you like to call it. The end game is for you to really understand your business, understand yourself and your brand and to rock it on social media Howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy, howdy. Really, I should say we are the champions, my friends, and we kept fighting to the end 300. And what 72 days we fought and we won. Was it that many days For 372?
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days Last year.
Speaker 1:
They focused on, yeah, because remember it was the semi-finals game. So, yeah, you're talking to two Michigan fans right now and we are feeling pretty high. I was doing my Rock's Talks podcast for the day today and I said it hit me. I was watching and, as a fan girling, some of us stayed for the whole game.
Speaker 2:
If you can't tell I've got a little bit of a raspy voice. My butt fell asleep on the couch. I tried, I tried.
Speaker 1:
Only the biggest game of your life when it comes to Michigan. That's okay, it's all right. It's all good.
Speaker 2:
It's all good. That's okay, because a lot of them I haven't watched all the way through, so that was the good luck pulling through. My subconscious literally shut me down. So Michigan could win.
Speaker 1:
Well, jj McCarthy thanks you then, because he's very superstitious, but this morning I was watching clips and things on X and overnight, and then this morning I was sitting there and I was like you know what I learned from this, and maybe I don't know we got it. I mean, michigan has to be talked about. We're champions, so we can talk about Michigan. But you know what I thought to myself? It was a lesson to all of us, because I do think sports is a lesson. We can learn life lessons, and it's also really wild to think these kids are like 22 and whatnot, but anyhow, they're kids.
Speaker 1:
Younger, younger Like they are babies, you're right. Yeah, younger, some of them six years because of COVID. But yeah, you're right, they're like 19, 20, 21. And I felt so bad at the end seeing the quarterback Penic Jr on the other side was injured and like I'm like please take him out of the game. You could tell his ribs were like shot and he was hobbling into this out of the stands and a Michigan player went into the the almost a dugout but the tunnel because he wanted to say hey, good job, and I thought that was so cool. And then some of their players, their Washington players, just sat there the whole time, like during the whole presentation. They just could not get up out of there, out of the sidelines. They were just so sad. And that's when I think, oh, these are babies, someone please make sure they're okay.
Speaker 1:
But what I thought about, and I think is very poignant, is that what Michigan did was they bet on themselves. And when I think about times in life where things didn't work out how I would have liked, big or small, it's because I didn't bet on myself, it's because I did something that seemed safer or like crowdsourced it or whatever, and didn't just bet on myself. And I think when it was a reminder to me, like, okay, yeah, my peony era, I'm betting on myself and regardless of how quickly things come or don't come, I'm betting on myself. I think, as we talk to social sellers, as you all are listening to this, let that be a reminder to you to bet on yourself.
Speaker 1:
There are gonna be so many instances where people are gonna tell you should do it a different way. There are gonna be so many instances where people are going to you're gonna get rejection, you're gonna feel crappy, all of those things which, if you look at the story of Michigan over the last 372 days, oh my gosh, there's a reason. It's Michigan to get versus everybody, because there were so many things. Whether it was brought on them by themselves or not does not matter. There were so many obstacles that came their way and they chose to bet on themselves. And I'm gonna go one further.
Speaker 1:
Okay. So you think about the team that lost last year. Second time they lost, they lost the TCU in the semifinals. They were so sad, so upset, and some of them had been on the team for two years in a row and they lost again. They had options. They could go into the transfer portal, like some of them did, and then go to another team that maybe looked more promising. Maybe they were dangling more money because you can do that now and go what seemed like the easier route. You lose two times in a row. Are you really gonna win this? Or maybe your coach and your team is not gonna win this? Maybe you should just give it up.
Speaker 1:
They had an option, if they didn't go into the transfer portal, to go into the draft and start your professional career and go be an NFL player and do that and get money and all the things, and that seemed really like yummy.
Speaker 1:
But there was a core group including JJ McCarthy and we cannot forget like Corum, because he got injured and could have gone on to the draft and he said no, I'm gonna stay, we have unfinished business to do. You know how insurmountable 372 days knowing that you have to do all of those practices all over again, knowing that you have to do all of those games and you have to win every single one and you gotta beat Ohio State and then you gotta do like all those things, all those sacrifices, and sit there and go. We have unfinished business. I'm coming back. And he was injured and he had to like rehab and get better and yet he chose to stay the course. Terrence probably laughed at me because this is not what we're supposed to talk about, but I just I'm here for it, no judgment, let's go Okay okay.
Speaker 1:
You think about your business and you think about all of the things that are telling you it's not gonna work. You're starting from zero. You're seeing people maybe your team members who've been doing it for six or seven years, like how am I ever going to get there? You're getting the nose the person you thought for sure would want to join you in business and even said I'd be interested then you join and they don't want to do it. Or you've been around business for a while and you're getting cancellations and people team members are leaving and you're sitting there going. Why am I doing this? It'd be so much easier if I did X, y, z. Maybe I should join this other company because they look like they're having more fun or they look like, oh my gosh, they're making so much money and I could just go do that. Do you see the parallels?
Speaker 2:
I do.
Speaker 1:
I do and hopefully you do those of you listening you have an opportunity and I'm not telling you that the root. I'm not telling you what the right decision is, I don't know, but I'll tell you. When I was watching, when I was looking at X Twitter, there was a player who was put up a picture. His name was Andre something. He had two A's. He was on the offensive line for Michigan last year and he had to put a picture up on Twitter. That was him, Blake and JJ McCarthy just looking sad. After he lost the game, he went into the transfer portal because that's what it feels great for him and he is a sooner now. But he was saying all these great things about Michigan and whatnot and how proud he was.
Speaker 2:
I thought to myself how does that feel To have left too soon. Yes, ouch, ouch, because those two years of losing is not losing. If you think that you are learning from those two years, you are going into this third year, whatever year you want to call it, with way more knowledge. What doesn't work, what works, what you need to do, what you need to do more of, what you need to do less of and is a waste of time. You know the road.
Speaker 1:
It's like these days we're driving around Arizona and when we drive somewhere it feels like it's so far, but when we drive back, that was a lot faster because we know the road and you know the road once, you've done it before. If you decide to see that road, if you decide to see it as knowledge as opposed to oh my gosh, I can't believe I have to do this again, Because I guarantee that feeling that they felt last night or feeling right now, those who stayed come on now. That is better than if they'd won it the first time without having to go through the journey they've gone through.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, like, how proud of like, how proud do you think they feel right now? Because I just think, like, even like your coach learned so much from getting you that far and then not making it, and then you're gonna go to a new team. That coach hasn't learned what you guys just learned and went through.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, and again we're not saying what was right or what was wrong, and knowing when to hold them and when to fold them, in the great words of Kenny Rogers, is a dance. I mean, it is a dance. We don't know when. That is for you specifically, so I'm not saying hang on too long, but at the same time don't leave the party too early.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I think it really comes down to the good old saying of trust your gut and that it's gonna mean something different for everybody. But knowing yourself and knowing what it feels like to be like, no, I probably really should move on. Or it's like there's that little voice in the back of your head. Maybe it doesn't make sense, but it's like stay, stay. You're like, but why?
Speaker 1:
Yeah, listen to it. Listen to it and you're right, because you might have that voice that says stay, stay. And you might well logically, if I write it down on paper we've lost two times. Why would I stay? If you're trying to logic your way into staying or leaving? That's not the right way. Can we agree on that?
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I don't think there's maybe a few select people but like pro con lists, throw those out the window. That just confuses you and gets you all in your head Like you have to get into your body about some decisions and I know school doesn't teach you that. Teach you a little logic and there's some like buying a home. You might want to logically look at some numbers.
Speaker 1:
Sure.
Speaker 2:
And there's aspects of your business that you need to look at numbers but, when it comes down to it, feel into your body and make the decision. And I was just reflecting, I just had my five year business anniversary have you ever seen it?
Speaker 2:
I started off thank you, as a VA. I answered customer service emails, you know, and I remember it was kind of, I think just after that first year I started to get the itch and I would see like other people selling courses and all these coaches making all this money and I was like, oh, they did it so fast, like I can just do it so fast. I've got the grit, and it was a humble reminder that things don't happen fast most of the time, and where I'm at now is a way different place than I thought I was going to be, but I'm still just as proud and I'm proud of the money that it's bringing in and I feel really good at about it and it's like just that kind of reminder and reflection. Looking back, I'm like I pushed so hard for this thing. I thought I could get so fast. You have to remember that in network marketing too, or any social selling, like it's not fast.
Speaker 1:
It's not, it's not fast, and I guarantee I mean yes, you can prove us wrong there's someone who did it fast, Absolutely in your company there are people who did it fast. They do not appreciate the journey and you might be like I don't want to appreciate the journey, I just want the money. Listen, like the journey is where the good stuff is. I can't express that enough to people. That's where the good stuff is is literally in the journey. That's where you learn and if we stop seeing things as failures, which ladies, women who are listening we are socialized to be afraid of failing, to hate failing. I read this book from the woman who created Girls who Code, and that's a lot. I didn't read the book, I read a couple of chapters.
Speaker 2:
Okay, that sounds better. I was like okay, proxies.
Speaker 1:
I did read In Forne from cover to cover, and if you're a manifesto, you need that book by Holly Herberg. But this book I listened to her on Instagram and then I read a bit of it and it was really good and it's something that I think that everyone who has children should read. I don't have children, so I'm good, I'm Gucci, but this book talks about how-.
Speaker 1:
You got baby or you got fur babies I do have fur babies, but they're always gonna be treated as princesses. It's just the way it is they're gonna be like. But when you have girls, when they fall, not only do you pick them up and coddle them, but you say that's okay, you don't have to do that anymore, and you take them on to do something else. Just that movement of it's okay. Oh, you hurt yourself. Okay, let's clean it off and let's go do something else Teaches them not to fail and teaches them, if they fail at something, to move on. Quit, absolutely, whereas with the boy. So then I realized that there's caveats and exceptions to this, but this is basically how we work in society. Okay, so I'm speaking in absolutes. You get me. When a boy falls down, we say you're okay, get back up, you're okay, and do it all over again.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, or there's the stop being a little girl, stop crying like a girl, get up and keep going, Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. I've seen people say that to my son and I'm like excuse me, Ooh.
Speaker 1:
So what happens is we teach a boy if you fall down, I get knocked down, you get up again. You ain't never gonna get me down. They learn that rejection is totally fine, whereas a girl learns rejection or failure, failure, rejection, whatever is not okay and we need to go do something where we're not gonna get hurt, where we're not going to fail. And I think about I used to walk around saying I don't like rejection and I used to walk around saying I don't like doing things I'm not good at. And at any point when I was like inquire any of these things, when I started not being good at it, I moved on.
Speaker 2:
Same oh 100% looking back like all through high school I had a different sport every semester because I wasn't the best. So I was like I'm not the star, might as well go play volleyball now. 100%.
Speaker 1:
So what does that do in our life, besides what you and I just made, using example that we lived, is this If you ever notice, when there's like a job application out there, they found and they've done studies, women will be overqualified for a job and not apply for it because they don't. Oh well, no, I shouldn't, I can't. Guys will have like 20 or 30% of the qualifications and their asses apply for the job.
Speaker 2:
I have heard that I'm like what is that coming from? They're taught to be resilient and try anyways. Yeah, I'm gonna put 10 out there, and girls are like I'm gonna apply to one, that's the perfect one.
Speaker 1:
The perfect one, absolutely. Oh, I don't have the credentials for that, so I could never apply for it. Guy doesn't think that way. He's like okay, yeah, I'll do it, because they're taught that rejection and failure is not a thing. This is also why the guys shoot their shots with girls, like what made you think you could get that girl? Yes, yeah, it's a thing. Again, I'll find the name of the book. I've got it somewhere, but anyhow, it is worth a read or a listen if you are raising kids, because, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:
It's not Girls who Code. Is that that no?
Speaker 1:
it's the woman who created Girls who Code, and the book is something else.
Speaker 2:
I just was on her. Let me see if I can find it Brave Not Perfect, yes.
Speaker 1:
Brave, not Perfect. That's the name of it, because and she even talks about it even now as women, we can teach ourselves to be brave and not be perfect, but being perfect, not failing, not have rejection. That is like it has messed us up. So why? Where is that going with that? Because when you think about your business, your direct selling business, your business you're doing, you are afraid that if you won't be perfect at it.
Speaker 1:
That's why people like I'm not putting anything on social media because it might not be good, I'm doing a YouTube. That is not perfect, I'm just being brave. Psn, by the way, just do the thing. People who are never gonna be perfect not any of us will be perfect, never gonna be perfect Get further, because they're just doing the thing.
Speaker 2:
Hallelujah. I have learned that over and over again in business. Because, gosh, you guys, you fail a lot, no matter what business. Don't look over there and you're like that. One must be easier. No, they're all hard, you're gonna fail and failing. You pause and maybe feel bad for a second and then you look back. What can I learn from this? All right, here we go again, mm-hmm absolutely.
Speaker 1:
This was not where we're gonna talk about the podcast today. Y'all just so you know.
Speaker 2:
No, but obviously it needed to come through.
Speaker 1:
Like a velociraptor.
Speaker 2:
I was thinking like a puking kid.
Speaker 1:
That tracks for your life yeah. I think that's right. What's going on in your world, my dear?
Speaker 2:
You guys Remember, I think last week I was talking about I was gonna go get a facial. Oh, I had it. I already mentioned that. Yeah, the life's not that exciting. What else is going on? I think we have COVID, well, that's nothing.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I got in the shower this morning to clear out, you know I was like, oh Nice, sprayed my eucalyptus spray helps me relax. I go, hmm, I Can't smell a thing, and it's not because my nose is clogged. And then I tried I've got tea, can't taste it. I was like, uh, how do you even get a test, A COVID test?
Speaker 1:
Yeah, is that a thing still? Yeah, you just go to CVS. Some of them just give them to you for free. They have I don't even know if I have a mask.
Speaker 2:
So I'm like, how am I gonna go in? Like this is a whole dilemma. I might just stay home for five days. Call it a day.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I'm trying to think you could probably get it delivered. Oh, you go through the drive-thru. Go through the drive-thru. Oh, I need a couple of uh-huh. Yes, there we go. I need that home cover. Test through the drive-thru. Make it happen, give it to me.
Speaker 2:
Thank you. All right, what's, how are you?
Speaker 1:
What's up? Well, we're about to go back to California. You know, when you move and you're like, oh my gosh, I have one more thing to do, like the last trip back to your place is the worst, you did that you had. Yes, you did that in your room, yeah. So I knew there's gonna feel that way. There's not a lot in the house. I've got a couple things that I still need to sell, so I needed like, y'all come get them. I don't even care at this point. I can't believe you don't want these things, but whatever, that's your issue.
Speaker 1:
Um, so we're here for three days and Scott might leave early with Taylor, my, my stepdaughter, because we they're doing this like the largest brew craft beer Fest is on Saturday here. Oh, we kind of want to go to it. So Baylor and I fly out on Saturday, saturday, saturday. So, um, and he's driving, he's driving the car, yeah, he's driving with Taylor. So they're new daddy Jada road trip was my idea Because, but also his, his back seat is not conducive to three people. So, um, they'll drive, we'll fly and then we will be. Thank you, think the good lord will be settled here and that is when I'll finally feel like Grounded. She'll be here for a week or so, so I still feel like I need to like show you around, but then it's like we're here, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:
Yep, you close the chapter. I know what you mean, because then my mom drove with me down and then it was like she was there so we were doing stuff, and then I'm like I just wanna close the chapter because moving I've already forgot how hard it is. I literally it's out of my brain Well, you don't remember paying.
Speaker 1:
they say, right, so that's the big thing that we're doing. We leave today, so just, and it's like we're really enjoying the house. So it's like, oh, we gotta leave. Okay, that's what it is.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, if that's gonna be me, we'll save travels.
Speaker 1:
I appreciate that. All right, everyone, we'll see you next week.
Speaker 2:
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Speaker 1:
Always remember you're not ahead, you're not behind, you're exactly where you're supposed to be and we'll see you next week for another episode of Rocks Talks. Thanks so much.